I’m a strong believer that Everything happens for a reason. Even when it doesn’t seem like it in the beginning, but sooner or later the big picture will start to reveal itself.
I had a huge fall out with a friend, infect a very close one. it hurt so much, and i did all that i could to mend it, but it just didn’t happen. at the time i didn’t understand, because i was focusing on fixing things. when i finally shifted my focused, everything was so clear to me. I became grateful for the fall out.
‘Growth is often painful and scary. There’s no growth without change; there is no change without fear or loss; and there is no loss without pain. Every change involves a loss of some kind: you must let go of old ways in order to experience the new.’ – Rick Warren.
Sometimes when things go wrong, we focus so much on fixing it, instead of understanding the reason behind it.
For me, my reason was as little as time. Yes time. You might think, what does time has to do with this? Well. When you have a close friend, you invest so much of your time on them; random visits, shopping, sleep overs, driving them to places ( as i was the only one with a car plus licence at the time) anyways you get the point.
Now i had all this free time on my hands, and i finally started investing on myself. it was as though i was being prepared for what was to come. don’t get me wrong, not that i didn’t appreciate what we had, but we needed to be separated for me to become who i am today. I was suddenly able to focus on my ideas and to turn them into a reality.
I also spend a lot of time reading; a major turning point. One of the books i read that woke me up and changed my perspective was THE PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE, by Rick Warren. “Day 20 restoring broken fellowship”. in my case it was friendship, even though i wasn’t able to restore it, i was challenged to pick up the phone and set a date. (if you do not swallow your pride, you will choke yourself.) So i said my sorries wished them well, forgave them and went on living my life with my head held high.
We all have dreams but not everyone will be part of it. Don’t always hold on for the sake of what used to be. Let go and let God guide you into your next chapter. My next chapter was launching my business, following my passion and pursuing my goals. Everything does happen for a reason, even when it doesn’t seem like it.